Are your expressions of affection getting lost in translation? Ever pondered how the words you use and the actions you take manifest as your unique love language? This episode takes you on a journey to uncover the love languages beyond the ones we're traditionally taught. We delve into the fascinating realm of affectionate expressions, which may take the form of words of affirmation, acts of service, or even the usage of one-of-a-kind nicknames.
Speaking of nicknames, have you ever wondered the significance of these special monikers? We discuss the importance of nicknames, how they're derived, what they symbolize, and their prevalence in different settings. From sports teams to schools, nicknames are more than just an eccentric tag; they're an intimate shorthand in our relationships. Plus, you'll get to hear some of our own amusing and heartwarming nickname stories!
Imagine having close ties with someone you've never met face-to-face. In this digital age, that's more than just a possibility. We examine how online relationships impact our love language, and the unique challenges that come with balancing online friendships and real-life relationships. From managing expectations to prioritizing connections, we share insights on making sense of these complex dynamics. Join us as we journey through the intricate labyrinth of love languages and online relationships in this enlightening episode.
⏰ Chapter Markers ⏰ 0:00 - Exploring Love Languages and Personal Needs 8:28 - Love Languages and Nicknames 12:38 - Internet Relationships' Impact on Love Language 20:27 - Balancing Online Relationships With Real-Life Priorities
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Are your expressions of affection getting lost in translation? Ever pondered how the words you use and the actions you take manifest as your unique love language? This episode takes you on a journey to uncover the love languages beyond the ones we're traditionally taught. We delve into the fascinating realm of affectionate expressions, which may take the form of words of affirmation, acts of service, or even the usage of one-of-a-kind nicknames.
Speaking of nicknames, have you ever wondered the significance of these special monikers? We discuss the importance of nicknames, how they're derived, what they symbolize, and their prevalence in different settings. From sports teams to schools, nicknames are more than just an eccentric tag; they're an intimate shorthand in our relationships. Plus, you'll get to hear some of our own amusing and heartwarming nickname stories!
Imagine having close ties with someone you've never met face-to-face. In this digital age, that's more than just a possibility. We examine how online relationships impact our love language, and the unique challenges that come with balancing online friendships and real-life relationships. From managing expectations to prioritizing connections, we share insights on making sense of these complex dynamics. Join us as we journey through the intricate labyrinth of love languages and online relationships in this enlightening episode.
⏰ Chapter Markers ⏰ 0:00 - Exploring Love Languages and Personal Needs 8:28 - Love Languages and Nicknames 12:38 - Internet Relationships' Impact on Love Language 20:27 - Balancing Online Relationships With Real-Life Priorities
⭐ Support: Help us continue making great content for listeners everywhere ➣ https://www.buzzsprout.com/2082493/support
More than just a Podcast, It’s a Movement”❗️
➣ Watch "Xposure Podcast" on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkY1... ➣ Follow "Xposure Podcast" on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/xposurepodc... ➣ Like "Xposure Podcast" on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?... ➣ For Guest Appearances, Sponsorship & Bookings: xposurethepodcast@gmail.com ➣ Visit our official website: https://www.XposurePodcast.com
Well, you just you just stimulated something in my mind where you said when we think of love languages, we always talk about what Brings together. Right, but there can be a language in love To where, with withdrawal, actually makes you a better lover. But I don't never see those on the list.
Speaker 3:
Nobody won't talk about it, nobody want to be honest when it, because my, I May have is I don't know the word for it, but I may have a.
Speaker 1:
There may be something that's in my love language that's not on the list and it might be on the side that you address. That's not necessarily in the aspect of Giving what the other person need, right, but it might be on the side that we might look at as negative, like you might. A person's love language might be. I don't need to see you Hear from you for two days straight.
Speaker 3:
Here's okay. Here's the question. So I'm gonna ask you straight up what is your love language? You got to come up with a word for it because she's gonna want to know.
Speaker 1:
Oh, somebody always gave me my love language.
Speaker 3:
No, I never agree to it. Oh okay, okay, let's use you for example. What's your words?
Speaker 1:
of, I'll be told words of affirmation yeah, I don't accept nothing. I don't accept none of these. I listen, maybe that's how it's perceived, but truly I don't know my love language, because there's things I I clock went in the in the context of how we use love. I have some Concerns that I don't that, on that I don't agree with. So my love language Might be on a different side of the spectrum that we, not that that we are ignoring. You got to find out.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, that's important for you to find out. Well, we, we need, we need to there's a quiz Let thing that was able to identify what it was for me.
Speaker 1:
I forgot where I got it from this is the quiz, is Something gonna come out regardless, because you gonna click something there if I was to do the quiz. They may be things I might not have a response for, but I'm gonna have to say it Anyways, because a response need to be generated in this and now I'm agreeing to that. So I'm agreeing, yeah, where it's affirmation is my love language. But in reality, do I need the words, do you? Know, that's the question. No, I've you know for sure.
Speaker 2:
So no, I was all your people around you, I mean saying nothing but negative things to you. Or when you, when you go out there I don't know you, let's say yours a Friday and you just want to go out dinner and you just put it on the table and no one don't say nothing. That act like it's regular, but everyone's like, hey, thank you for bringing dinner tonight. That that was perfect.
Speaker 2:
This is exactly what I wanted, man, you just, you just do a phenomenal job. Man, you always know what I want. Like just hearing that from, like, let's say, a partner. That would be like words of affirmation, like confirming that.
Speaker 1:
If it don't define my language of love like that, just that, just feel good I'm. I'm almost we expecting us to do that regardless for each other, things like that it feels nice. But when I'm taught, when I'm getting into the intricate teach, intricateness, interest I don't know the word when I'm getting into the details of my love language.
Speaker 1:
I Wouldn't hold you to. I Wouldn't hold you to, I guess, the languages of love that that can be there, like I'm gonna take into consideration Inconsistency and stuff like that there's. There are some things that might sound negative. That's gonna be more my love language, my love language. I know that you will every day. You ain't going to do this. I know that every it. Some days I might not want to see you at all. Sometimes I might want to.
Speaker 1:
I might have a desire for a stranger Like not nothing sexual, but like strangers are stimulating, like when you having a conversation you just meet somebody random and you go yeah, yeah, y'all just talk and it's like oh, it's a good conversation. We don't know nothing about each other. Sometimes, you even express more to a stranger than someone you know. So there's things that would strengthen my relationship with somebody I love that have zero to do with them.
Speaker 3:
That falls under that category too, though.
Speaker 1:
So it's the same category Of what Affirmation? Words of affirmation, but you stimulated something when you talked about like the withdrawal, and that can be a love language. It could be a warning as well. It could be a warning, just like the what's the one for gifts like that can be a warning for somebody who ain't got it. So there's some things that's in the language and it might be out there. Somebody might have a more detail that shows the what we may consider red flags.
Speaker 3:
So let me ask you this so because let's just say I can't give right now, but I like to, instead of giving, I like to help, that's still falls under that category, doesn't?
Speaker 2:
it give.
Speaker 3:
Like like.
Speaker 2:
I forgot the yeah.
Speaker 3:
Yeah, it's still falls under that category of giving. You know what I'm saying. If I know I can't give that person this, but I like to help. Let's just say you're moving and I like to come in and help out. Like you know what I'm saying, it's just all falls under that category. It's just like that category of giving.
Speaker 1:
We needed a woman. She wouldn't know all the words, of course.
Speaker 3:
So when we have that interview, yeah, we can have that conversation.
Speaker 2:
You can't let us know that in the comments?
Speaker 3:
They got us, they won't put it.
Speaker 2:
They can't get this, but I get you. I don't know. I think it's, and I'm not saying your love language. That's the like. That's probably gonna be the main one Cause I think you can probably relate to all of them. That exists. But, like I think, the way I was brought up right and in the Haitian household, your mom ain't telling you I love you back in the day. And I ain't talking about today's Haitian parent, I'm talking about us growing up right, your mama as a kid. Did she ever come home and be like I love you?
Speaker 3:
Then people don't say I love you, I'm giving, but did you ever hear that?
Speaker 2:
Like you know what I'm saying. So for me, like, so what I'm saying and I'm not saying this right, but like in my adulthood I'm not really looking for that for someone to come by and be like, hey, I love you, hey, I appreciate it, like I feel like your action it was kind of more of action, I think, as long as they knew you had a roof over your head, they put food on the table, they gave you the best clothes that they could give you and I'm talking about for folks who's like, born in the 80s. I think that's the way of like you should know this Like I'm doing this because I do love you, but they ain't say it. So I guess for me, like when I could relate to the love language is this, because I don't go around looking for that but if you the words of affirmation, like if you just let me know, like if I'm go out my way to do something for you or I'm just doing what I'm doing and you acknowledge it, you know what I'm saying I come home with a new business, a new venture, a new idea and you listen and you digest it and gives me some good feedback on it, like that will mean more to me than you sitting here telling me like I love you, oh I care for you, like you could sit down and we could bust a play together, like that's a little different from just than I thought I had.
Speaker 2:
Or an idea and you helping me, you looking into it and getting back to me Like that's how I'm rolling, that's why I started understanding that, oh, this is really a thing. Then I also dealt with folks who, like they just wanna, after eight o'clock, they wanna get in this bed. Just hold me, let's watch the TV. I don't worry about nothing.
Speaker 3:
I don't care how much money you got right now.
Speaker 2:
None of that is a concern. If we can find a good movie and you hold me till I fall asleep, we good Like that's a real thing. That's me right now. You know what I'm saying? You a?
Speaker 3:
cuddler? No, I'm not a cuddler, my girl is she just yeah, she just yeah, touch, Touch is the love language. You're not a cuddler. No man, I think I won't. No, no, no, you look like a cuddler. Well, you, yeah, you look like a cuddler.
Speaker 2:
What's funny? I'm trying to think of that. I'm interested in you, but I do look at you like a cuddler.
Speaker 3:
Yeah, you look like a cuddler. Well, I'm putting, I'm starting from the beginning, like all the way up, like I can see your feet between her feet cuddling with y'all in a springing position.
Speaker 2:
And you always dress cuddling. Yeah, you got on the slide, you a cuddler in, a cuddler Like that's just K for cuddling.
Speaker 1:
Trying to act like you ain't no cuddler, that's another thing.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, I could be cuddling man.
Speaker 3:
Oh listen, I'm not a cuddler, but I bet you got a snuggie. No, I don't.
Speaker 2:
I definitely don't.
Speaker 1:
Do I want one. I do want one. You got to wait at. Blinkett, I had one, ok, you a cuddler, you a cuddler, you a cuddler, you got a body pillow.
Speaker 3:
A body pillow. Yeah, she got a body pillow.
Speaker 2:
Now definitely not, that's too funny. Yeah, yeah, yeah, oh, man.
Speaker 3:
That's crazy. Oh cuddler, you look like a cuddler.
Speaker 1:
Wow, wow, oh man. I like the concept of love languages.
Speaker 3:
They are OK. The person closer to you is definitely going to let you know what your love, your love languages. The closest person to you.
Speaker 1:
Yeah.
Speaker 3:
I definitely got that.
Speaker 1:
I definitely got that. I some, and this, this is a me problem. I don't like to be given a label that I ain't really I ain't really sell on myself.
Speaker 3:
OK, so you don't accept nicknames Like like, if the homies gave you a nickname, all my nicknames didn't come from me. Drago was not. I didn't come up with Drago. It used to be before. Drago was D or big D, because I used to be really really, really big, I thought nicknames Big Diego.
Speaker 2:
Big Diego, big Diego, big Diego, big Diego, big Diego.
Speaker 3:
But yeah, so again, I think nicknames should be given to you, to me.
Speaker 2:
I mean, that's how it was, especially growing up Right and usually Haitians. It's on your disability, bro. Like you had a sleepy eye. They call you TeeJay, which you know what I'm saying with me little eye. Like they literally picking on your handicap. You know what I mean. So it was like what the heck, they still call you doodoo.
Speaker 2:
Bro dawg. It is crazy, man, I'll tell you that, and I think we kind of did it when I played football. The biggest doodoo on the team, we call them tiny. See I just man, it's crazy. It's crazy with the nicknames. But I'm about to say, because shoot, what nicknames you got besides Eric B. I know I say slab. That's just because I think I know you from that era. I still say slab sometimes they used to.
Speaker 1:
When I played on a little league football, they called me water break. Water break I would take. I would just go take water breaks anytime I was thirsty, but I didn't know that there was a time to take water break. And they was looking for me and I was there, was like where you was? I was like I want to get some water. They were like you don't go, get no water, water break. This was the coach star.
Speaker 2:
He on a water break.
Speaker 1:
Go take a little go take a little. So last night everybody started calling me water break Because I was this literally. It was literally Dairy Rocks.
Speaker 2:
Oh, you play for the Rocks.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, yeah they kind of transcended over into like school to people that were like the other football players that went to the school. They would call me water, break through the hallways and stuff.
Speaker 2:
At the LA.
Speaker 1:
No, this was on middle school. Yeah, so this was middle school.
Speaker 2:
Okay, I'm about to say Okay, water break, water break. Wow, look at that, water break yeah their names are supposed to be given. So Drago. Why Drago from DA? Why Drago?
Speaker 3:
Because it was close to. Okay, I'm going to put it out there. Sorry, X's, it is what it is. Drago was from an ex-girlfriend and she was calling me Drago because I was. I used to be in school, beating on tables, bathroom doors, whatever, so Dra, Dr. Dra was the biggest thing, of course, at the time, and the government is Diego, so why not replace the I with the R? She said Drago, why don't we just call you Drago? And I'm like, oh shit, that should sound hard. So we just went with Drago. So it's a set of DA. Go with the I.
Speaker 2:
You just shut out the dreams.
Speaker 3:
Yeah, exactly, so I'm going to produce, I'll make beats. Started to make beats in high school. They called me Drago, so I was like, okay, that shit went hard and I just stuck with it. Yeah.
Speaker 1:
If I was to talk about my love, language and association to relationships through the ways of internet, social media. We met so many people throughout the years, like, I think, about all the people that I've met over time through the internet, some that I didn't see, or whatever the case may be. When I came here into this world it was very small. The world felt so tiny, right, and everybody was around you. Then you opened up the internet and now there's people I know in other countries. I've seen them have kids. I've seen so much growth in you, knowing a lot, a lot of people. You're having a lot of relationships and then it kind of affects you in a way to where you miss more than you can actually have access to. I guess I don't know what I was trying to say with that.
Speaker 1:
I don't have the words for it because, it's not something we necessarily address as a discussion, but knowing so many people through the internet for so many years on top of the people you know physically, the people that you know online, people I've known for like seven years I only know they handle. I only know them by the time I see them. That's what I know them as, but I know them just as well as a person I might have went to high school with. I might know more about them than I know about a cousin.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, I'm with you. I've got about 15 year plus relationships from people that I met on the internet and we've stayed in contact from social media. We even got each other numbers. We don't talk as much, of course everyone's grown, got kids, but we do check in on each other from time to time, from birthdays or holidays. It's just super cool to have that. You know, they seem like some of them, you know, depending on how you could tell when someone addresses me, you know what they met me, what time of the life they met me and, yeah, it goes that far back and that is amazing and I do cherish that, because I've met people in reality who probably wasn't as loyal or done shady things that made you want to keep your distance, not communicate with those individuals anymore. But these people that I didn't even have a chance to meet in person some of them, but some of them are made in person but we got the best relationships and they always supported me from day one and to now.
Speaker 1:
This mess up my love language because I can go back to people and I have, like this, these nostalgic memories of people Like there was a girl I once worked with. She ended up committing suicide but I still remember her from the mind space. Days Like now think how long ago that was, but I still remember her. Obviously she committed suicide. That was sad, but I think about her. I know people that have had kids. I can remember pictures that they may have posted.
Speaker 1:
One time I was on Instagram and I was going back through people I had known to somebody, older pictures Like just going down memory lane and like going like oh, this is a picture I remember. This is when I met you. Oh, you look like this and you thinking about these people. If anybody out there wondering if people you knew from the internet think about you, people do be thinking about people. You miss some of these relationships of internet people. They are very, very real and sometimes people check in on you and you'd be like wait, people really checking in on you from your internet relationships Like you. On a mind like these, it expands sometimes further than what's like right in proximity of you.
Speaker 2:
Yeah.
Speaker 1:
Right in proximity.
Speaker 3:
Music does that for me, Like if I sing, let me see your monkey shawty spread. I know exactly where I was, where I heard it. I know all the events I was doing. I heard it. You know what I'm saying. Music does that for me. I know what you mean when you say that. Trust me.
Speaker 1:
It messed up. I can say it messed up, my love language.
Speaker 3:
Which one? Because we have multiple.
Speaker 2:
What messed up the internet relationships.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, the internet relationships. It messed up my love language because I have situations where I'm right there with a person, but then I might be thinking about somebody from the internet, not even in an inappropriate way, but like a friend, like going. The profile may come up. I might click on a person profile just to see what they're doing.
Speaker 2:
Why are you with the other person?
Speaker 1:
Yeah, I've done that before.
Speaker 2:
I mean, yeah, one day I think there's a time and a place for that.
Speaker 1:
I'm saying that the internet affected my love language. So yeah, I agree with you there's a time and a place for that. But I'm telling you what I have to do.
Speaker 2:
That's what you wanted to do. In that moment I thought of this. Something compelled me.
Speaker 1:
I might go to the bathroom. Sometimes you take a bathroom you doodling and then you're scrolling through and then you see a profile of a friend or somebody you know. You click on a page.
Speaker 2:
No, that's cool. I mean, once again, you're not in that. I don't know who you are around. Depending on their status, I can see how that can cause some conflict, to say the least. Yeah, yeah, not.
Speaker 1:
If I'm being honest, it caused conflict because these are real relationships, these are real people.
Speaker 2:
These are real memories.
Speaker 1:
So it's like a, it's another domain that is separate from you and we try to pretend like it's not so real, especially for us, because we remember before social media. So you're kind of acting like it ain't a threat. But then you, as time goes on, you're like wait, these relationships online can be a threat. But we came in, oh, the internet, just internet, my space, my face did it. Facebook, facebook. Like you, you're not expecting what you're saying there to actually you get in trouble for it, like when I was in a relationship and girls comment and I'm like man, it just comes.
Speaker 1:
Like the insecurities.
Speaker 3:
Oh, I like to say the insecurities.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, the insecurities, I understand that.
Speaker 1:
The thoughts real, the heart, emojis real, the winky eyes, definitely real.
Speaker 2:
Even the emojis are real.
Speaker 1:
right, yeah, what you left on the, what you put on the heart picture, what, yeah, but I was able to lie and act like it wasn't real, but that benefited me. Now fast forward to now. I miss some of these people. The memories are real, the associations are real, the interactions are real, the DMs are real. No, no the sharing of secrets and problems and issues. All those are real and you'd be like I got these memories, I got this, this, this baggage.
Speaker 2:
This is going to affect my love language going forward, so do you think let's just say when you get in a serious relationship, let's say when you are. Do you think, well, I'm not saying it. Do you think you will still have a struggle? Now, let's say you meet somebody, right, you with somebody. And now you, you already have this great relationships you have with people on the internet, for example. You don't hang with them every day, but you probably messes each other and have great dialogue in the DM or inbox, whatever.
Speaker 2:
So is that always going to be a challenge? Or do you think eventually you might have to minimize the internet friends, like they're going to have to play a backseat, backseat. I'm talking about the school bus. You know the one-seater all the way in the back. Why? Why? The new persons in the forefront with you? Do you think you're going to have to choose ever? Or you, it's able, you're able to balance both. It's just depending on prioritizing. And hey, if I'm with you, I'm doing this, if I'm not with you, I can't stroll and have a good time as well. It's more than just a podcast.
